Monday, October 1, 2012
The tall boy is my hero -- and so are you.
OK, so I am sorry to report to you that my tall boy is back in the hospital. You may remember that he had some pretty significant and scary (not to mention painful) surgery last month. The universal thinking six weeks ago was that a procedure called a pleurodesis would save the world, cure cancer, re-kill Osama Bin Ladin, ensure that pandas live forever, and send our tall boy out into the world with permanently fixed lungs.
As it turns out, his continuing pulmonary woes are -- well, they are continuing.
The ways that this sucks are multiple and varied, and I could go on for days about how crappy this is, but frankly, I'm too tired. But the sunny girl told me that I could blog the lazy way, and show you some screen captures of the texts that I have sent to various people as we have sat with our boy, while he hears super-smart, super-confident, super-experienced cardio-thoracic surgeons and pulmonologists and interventional radiologists (which I didn't even know was a thing, but it is) -- plus Uncle Doctor (who is an OB-GYN) -- say, "damned if we can figure this out." Tragically, I'm not even paraphrasing.
Then the sunny girl talked me through the whole "screen capture" thing, which I didn't even know was a thing, but it is. So any successful screen captures are thanks to her.
So -- here's what happened this time:
So -- that's pretty much where we are right now. The tall boy is in the hospital, tethered to a chest tube and a pleural pump, with no end in sight. He could be -- justifiably -- so depressed and cranky and mean. But he is my hero because he has repeatedly said, "It is pointless to get pissy about things I cannot control." We should all be wearing this on a t-shirt.
SHE (who is turning out to be the world's greatest girlfriend) has been his only bright spot in a really very discouraging turn of events.
Well, HER and his grandpa -- who brought him a fabulous Italian sub and ate lunch with him while talking about the Redskins game and Eisenhower. Oh -- and his cousin, who is studying to be a nurse and was really nice about not asking to see his chest tube up close and personal, and who brought him a balloon that is basically a dead fish (which cracked him up). And Lisa and her husband, who have visited every single day. And Grandma Carol and Aunt Heidi, who brought him a watercolor set (people -- this tall boy is BORED). And his professors at Catholic University, who, to a person, have been so supportive and gracious and have made sure he concentrates on getting better instead of on papers due and classes missed. And all the people (Coleen, Sheri, Judy, Susan, Kathy, David, Lissa, Andrew, Carolyn, Mary) who have joshed and joked and jollied with him on Facebook and via text, as he faces a frustrating and frightening turn of events. Plus the prayer warriors: Annalisa and Jim, James and Betty, Carol Jean and Jim, Steven and Terry, Holly, Bonnie, Cristie, Bob and Elaine, Katey, Jane, Randy, Meghan, Lourdes, Mark, Lissa, Scott, Rafe, Alan, Jana, Saskia, Wendy, Matt, Rosemary, Joe. And my dear, dear blog friends around the world: Polly, Heather, Maureen, Diane, Rena, Holly, and others I don't even know about.
He is a lucky, lucky tall boy.
We love you all very much.